The other day I went to the beach with the kids and someone went with us. When we pulled in the parking lot she said, “Wow now that’s a big-un,” Referring to a female in a beautiful coral one piece bathing suit. She was a larger sized woman but she carried herself with confidence as she walked across the parking lot, even without a towel covering her. When the friend made the comment it crushed my heart. I quickly reminded her that I was double the woman’s size and told her that we have no idea what she is dealing with. She could have health issues that keep her from losing weight or have hereditary health issues . . . there is no telling what she is dealing with. The stress in her life could be more than she can handle . . . . . we simply do not know. She then stated, “Well at least she’s not in a two piece showing it all off.”
Ugh. Another blow to my spirit.
So what if she was?
What give us the right to judge a person by their exterior and not from their heart and the person they actually are? I just don’t understand. There is no doubt in my mind I could lose weight BUT just because I am fat does not mean that I am not a person.
It does not mean that I am not smart.
It does not mean that I am not lovable.
It does not mean that I am lazy.
It does not mean that I can not and do not serve.
It does not mean I do not have feelings.
It does not mean that I don’t exercise.
It doesn’t mean God can’t use me!
This person that said that horrible statement was a Christian. But that doesn’t leave her vulnerable to being human.
Was it stupid? Yes.
Was it shallow? Yes.
Is it forgivable? Yes.
Will she be held accountable for the thoughts? Yes. The most commonly misquoted scripture Matthew 7:2. So often we have diarrhea of the mouth and blurb out, “don’t judge, don’t judge!” when in fact the scriptures state, “For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” She will be held accountable and will be judged according to the same manner she judged a stranger. But that’s not just for her, that is for all of us. ALL. OF. US.
Then I thought, maybe God has allowed this season of obesity in my life to make me more sensitive to those who carry extra weight light me.
Maybe it is to be a voice to those who are ignorant and hateful . . .
I learned this week it’s not just the “Black Lives Matter” that so many of my friends are posting about that spill hate and hurt from their mouths. Non-Christians and Christians do too. I hope that gives you something to think about before you start bad mouthing all the other hate groups in our world and maybe examine your heart before you start running your own mouth criticizing a stranger over her size. (FOR THE RECORD because I am sure someone is going to take that as saying I support Black Lives Matter groups. I do not. That is an extreme example of hate and I was trying to make a point.)
I Samuel 16:7 says, But the LORD said to Samuel, “Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The LORD doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”